In traditional societies, or other designated individuals choose a person's spouse and occupation. List of Disadvantages of Arranged Marriage 1. Love takes time, but will hopefully bloom. Because ultimately it is our responsibility. They are when parents predetermine who their child will marry. Read 9 epic arguments against arranged marriage from a frustrated Indian man! Parental Discretion Your parents are the ones who choose who you are to marry, so you do not have to worry about them liking your spouse. She's a grown woman that made her choice and now she's paying for it.
The suitability can be ascertained from all angles In an arranged marriage, you can have several parameters in front of you and match the prospective candidates with those expectations. I honestly would rather have an arranged marriage. They all come back to us with advice which we can act upon. Even after three years i have not fallen in love with anyone else again but i just cannot see myself marrying some random guy whom i hardly know. We see life differently and, while I love them both, my mom has been and always will be excessively controlling. Especially over a long period of time. I do not advocate arranged marriages but I think a lot can be learned from them.
Hence even little acts of understanding and empathy can make them happy and get along comfortably with each other till they learn fully about the other person and build the mansion of family. They can lead to disagreements within the family. The main purpose of arranged marriages is to strengthen the clan and continue the family line. Arranged marriages often come in two forms: traditional arranged marriages i. It is more in the nature of a marriage between the families and not individuals.
The families can mostly be helpful til things go south or when families decide to get too involved. Marriage is all about taking care of the children and elderly in joint families. Whacky set-up by friends and blind dates. When it is an arranged marriage, the parents do support the relationship and there would be a strong cooperation between the parents of the two individuals. Parents also consider their views and decision is taken accordingly. More so if you have a child with special needs. We married and lived happily ever… Well, we lived happily.
Focuses on the Superficial In some cultures, the most important things to consider are the appearance -- skin color, height -- of the potential spouse, and his or her socioeconomic standing, especially when it comes to the man's occupation. Its really a challenge for most of the couple to get a consent from their parents. If they do not breakup and marry they will have some problems with parents and parents and siblings in-turn will have to face some form of social disgrace which sometimes cause problems in the marriage. The couples also have a financial advantage when they accept an offer from their parents. Parents who arrange marriages are fully aware that their children can always refuse a selected partner, in which case they simply look for another suitable partner.
They let parents find the right spouses for their children. Sorry many people I know with arranged marriages wish they die early. Cons Of Arranged Marriages 1. Having a spouse that has a similar lifestyle or understands why you are doing whatever you may be doing creates a harmonious marriage. The thought of having your spouse picked out by your parents can be repulsive to many young adults. I be had 4 kids and they are grown up in teens.
Matrimony ads in newspapers are no good Matrimony provide fodder for ridicule. Your cultural upbringing and religious convictions are strong determinants of where you stand on this issue. I enjoyed your post, Vishnu! I do not really want to take the chance of marrying someone who is unknown and waiting for him to turn out to be good. I would say my aunt definitely gets mode respect and freedom, but my mom is still satisfied and happy. For example — food habits, dress habits etc. Everybody have to accept because whole society have witnessed the wedding. Some Indians and westerns confuse arranged marriages with forced marriages.
Cultural understanding Usually, the individuals in arranged marriages descend from similar cultures or share similar religions. They often view the opportunity to sow their own oats and experience the rush of first love as a fundamental rite of passage into adulthood. How can you get into a thing called marriage without understanding who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Because your mother has also participated in the process. Including aunts, uncles, 1st, 2nd, and even 3rd cousins! The statistic about arranged marriages having less percentage of divorce rate compared to marriage by choice is true. I used to believe that arranged marriages were ridiculous but did go thro one myself to save myself from the melodrama that goes with doing anything against your parents wishes…. Have you noticed how similar economic explanations for social behavior are to explanations from evolutionary psychology?. This includes cookies from third party social media websites and ad networks.
In times of difficulty, the couple can count on the help of their parents and in-laws for physical, emotional and financial support. The Absence of Choice If you truly dislike the person your family has chosen for you, there is very little that you can do to change it. A study in Jaipur, India a few decades ago found that people in love marriages were more in love for the first five years, while those in arranged marriages were more in love for the next 30 years. A well-written article, even if I disagree with its ideas. The process of arrange marriage is itself interesting. We matched 100% in some categories.